Hey Loves! How are ya? I currently am in bed watching a few videos from Marie Forleo/ Marie TV on Youtube. The video I’m watching is all about feeling lost and trust me I’ve been there. Although I have always had a pretty clear idea of who I wanted to become and the things I wanted to accomplish, I always felt lost in not knowing how to get there or worst of all; worrying about my future.
I’m not going to lie; I don’t just about my success within my career life in the future but about relationships I’m in, I worry about time, I worry about accessibility , I WORRY A LOT. Well, I used to…
A lot has changed over the past year and I’ve began to worry less. In no way does this mean I don’t worry anymore, but I’ve learned how to cope when I do worry.
FOCUS ON WHAT YOU CAN CONTROL
For a while, I would worry endlessly, and a lot of the things I worried about were inevitable for example making mistakes, getting my heart broken or experiencing one big confusion about my life and career. Guess what? All three of these things have happened to me! I can proudly say that I’m not yet where I want to be, but I remember to aware of what I can control. For example, my priorities right now are my visa application, a copy-writing class I’m doing and my online content. These things I can control whether I put effort into them or whether I decide to put them on the back burner. In terms of friendships and relationships however; you can worry about where those will take you but always remember to bring it back to yourself and if you have any doubts be conscious of it and communicate!
ENJOY/EMBRACE THE MOMENT EVEN IF IT’S HORRIBLE
Learn to enjoy or embrace the moment you’re in. There’s a fantastic quote I once heard which said ” I’ve learned to appreciate happiness , love and all the great things in life because I know what it’s like having felt the opposite of that and being full of pain” , I don’t know about you but I can relate to this entirely! Even in the toughest of times, I think the best thing to do is not resist it, bask it in and experience it , so that when things do turn around you can truly appreciate its worth entirely. As Marie says, making this moment its fullest potential could give you amazing opportunities for the future.
Sometimes when we worry too much, we often visualize what we don’t have and dwell on that , of course it’s a very human like thing to do BUT shift your perspective sometimes and instead of looking down upon it, be thankful for what you do have or what has happened in your day even if it’s being thankful for someone opening the door for you, or having an amazing meal, that way you can attract better things and can understand the value of gratitude!
FIGURE OUT WHAT YOU NEED RIGHT NOW
A lot of our worries tend to be connected to a lot of things we perhaps need emotionally, worried about your friendship? Perhaps spend more valuable ( valuable is the important bit) time with your friends, family and partners. Feeling insecure about your skills? Take an online course, FUTURE LEARN and SKILL SHARE have so many incredible online courses, you could patch up your skills or even go out and learn something new!
I hope these tips were helpful! Have you got any other tips to help with worrying? Let me know in the comments!